Six tips for starting the school year successfully

For many children, the first day of school will be their first ever day of school. Others will head to a new school. As a pediatrician, I’m often asked how to best prepare a child for this big life change. Here is my advice to make your child's start of the school year successful:

Prepare your child — and yourself: Talk about what a typical school day may look like as well as things like bigger classrooms, new teachers and friends and scheduled activities/meals. If your child’s school allows, visit the classroom and meet the teacher in advance. This can be especially helpful for children who don’t attend day care. Make sure your child is getting good sleep. Families should have a bedtime routine that promotes good sleep hygiene.

Play it safe: Teach your child their phone number and address. This becomes useful if they ever get lost or need to get picked up from school. Make sure their school knows the approved guardians for pickups and their contact information.

Encourage independence: When children learn independence, their confidence builds, and new experiences seem less scary. Let your child put on their own jacket or shoes and practice potty routines.

Start out strong: Make sure you understand school policies. Are there uniforms? What school supplies does your child need? Should you be packing lunch? These preparations will ensure your child starts school with everything they need. The American Academy of Pediatrics has a checklist for the first day of school on their website, Healthychildren.org.

Talk about the tough stuff: Kids often speak without filters and don’t understand the negative impact words and actions can have. Teach your children about our diverse world and how every child is special in their own wonderful way. Give positive reinforcement and praise for good behaviors and model kindness. If your child has experienced bullying, have a heart-to-heart with them and remind them how much they are loved and all the amazing qualities they have. Familiarize yourself with your child’s school policies regarding bullying behaviors.

Keep drop-off short and sweet: Sometimes saying goodbye is a difficult time for your child — and maybe you. The most effective way to address separation anxiety is to keep the drop off brief. Say goodbye, give your child a big hug and kiss, let them know you will be picking them up later and leave. The longer you stay while your child is upset or crying, the longer they will continue to cry. Once you leave, their teacher will help with comforting and introducing your child to the many fun distractions in the classroom.

As the first day of school approaches, take a deep breath and remain calm. Parents tend to be more nervous than their children, which can increase kids’ anxiety. This is a big milestone to celebrate. Enjoy every moment of it. You’ve raised an amazing child. The best thing you can do is let them become independent while always being there with support and love.

• Children’s health is a continuing series and this week’s column was submitted by Advocate Children’s Hospital. Dr. Khin Khin Bremer is a pediatrician with Advocate Children's Medical Group and is accepting new patients. To schedule a checkup, sick visit, chronic or complex care or newborn checkup, call (630) 275-9060.